Nothing is caused by what happens outside ourselves

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Nothing is caused by what happens outside ourselves

CHRISTCHURCH, NEW ZEALAND, NOVEMBER 16, 2012 - The iconic Anglican Cathedral remains a ruin in Christchurch, South Island, New Zealand, since the earthquake of 22-2-2011

CHRISTCHURCH, NEW ZEALAND, NOVEMBER 16, 2012 – The iconic Anglican Cathedral remains a ruin in Christchurch, South Island, New Zealand, since the earthquake of 22-2-2011

Nothing is caused by what happens outside ourselves

W.Glasser

People ask “But what about an earthquake?”  It can be perceived that the actual shaking of the earth causes you to be fearful, upset, anxious, or afraid.  Your heart rate will increase, you will have an increased pulse rate and your muscles may tense. Your need for survival is being challenged.  All of these physiological behaviours are controlled by the reptilian brain and result in a flight, fight or freeze response.  These physiological behaviours can be perpetuated or changed.  If our thinking is “This is really terrible.”   “I’m never going to get over of this.”  “The next one is going to be the big one that kills us all.” The acting may be screaming.  This keeps the brain in this constant state of alert.  The cells go into protection mode and brain downshifts where creativity and hope are limited.

Do we have choices?  Yes, Can we change the brain patterns? Yes.  Is the anxiety and fear caused by the earthquake?  No.   It is the result of our thinking and acting we choose when the earthquake occurs.  Can we choose to think and act differently? Very definitely.

Changing our thinking and acting can get out of the downward spiral.  Is this easy?  No. Is it possible? Yes.    Ask yourself “How long do I want to feel like this?  Do I want to feel calm and in control?   Is what I am doing getting me closer to what I want?

The feelings and physiology, thinking and acting are not caused by the earthquake. They come from within us.

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